Comments on: Sometimes you’re in, sometimes you’re out

By: Haley-O (Cheaty)

Haley-O (Cheaty) — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:42:34 +0000

High school is probably the best microcosmic representation (does that make sense?) of life. It’s just the way human beings are. By the time we’re adults we hopefully recognize these parts of humanity that we don’t like and transcend them, attempt not to care when we’re not part of the “club,” but it’s futile because we need to be part of the community. It’s a basic human drive…. (I’m tired). So you find the club that you belong in, maybe a few of them. And there will always be those clubs we want to be a part of but aren’t because we aren’t cool enough (or maybe we’re too cool, i.e., in my case — hee, I KID). I say embrace it, and start your OWN .

Whatever clubs are out there, I know that I want to be in a club with you, Darling!

By: Samantha

Samantha — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:42:05 +0000

EmmaLou you WERE one of the cool kids my friend.

HOMEWORK? and what the hell is this “BlogHer” everyone is speaking of??

And you and me belong to the two boys club!

By: Mary Lynn

Mary Lynn — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:02:38 +0000

My daughter’s started dealing with this with a few of her kindergarten friends. She comes home sometimes and tells me that so-and-so didn’t want to include her in their games. Like you, I have to catch myself when the words I say to try to cheer her up actually serve to minimize what she’s going through. It’s funny–we all went through this stuff when we were kids, yet the experience doesn’t really help us find just the right thing to say to make it all better for our kids.

I don’t mind hearing about BlogHer, even though I’ve never managed to go. Like you said, anyone can go if they can manage to pull together the funds and the babysitting. It doesn’t have that “popularity contest” element that makes you feel slighted to be on the outside looking in.

By: melissa

melissa — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 02:43:59 +0000

I’m not going to BlogHer and I don’t mind if you talk about it. Part of me wants to know what I’m missing. (The other part of me is bummed that I don’t have my shit together enough to go myself, but whatever.)

As for other, more flaunted clubs, I think that the cool kids in high school were usually self-appointed. So were the not-so-cool kids. While I can’t say what the cool kids did, I do know that this not-so-cool kid did a lot of trash-talking. Not so classy, or so cool. Sadly these cliques seem to carry on to adult life. Which explains why high school reunions usually suck.

By: ewiller

ewiller — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:54:54 +0000

True – but with BlogHer, anyone can go. Anyone can buy a ticket. I know there are some people that don’t want to hear about it – but at least they made a choice, whether that choice was by economics or childcare or whatever.
And I was aware of that when I was there last year – I really do try hard not to flaunt things like that. I think I’m being sensitive because I feel like something was ‘flaunted’ in the last couple of days. Without naming names.

By: kgirl

kgirl — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:50:12 +0000

I try not to think of it as being in or out of a club, but, as my mother told me, many times, you can’t dance at every party.

Besides, does this mean you’re not going to write one little thing about BlogHer this year? Hope it doesn’t.